May 10

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I recently attended a Director’s meeting with one of the top people in our Company. I was introduced to a new principle that I as unaware of called the 4:8 Principle. It is based on a book by Tommy Newberry called “The 4 8 Principle”. It was a strong reminder to me of the power of positive thinking. That is not always easy though when unpleasant things are happening to us.  Here are 17 ways to achieve joy and maintain it from his website. I found extreme power in reading this and hope that you do too!

On 03.04.10, In Advice, By Tommy

Difficult, trying times reveal just how positive you really are. Think about it.

What’s the virtue in being positive when you’re on a roll, when everything is clicking for you and falling your way?

Your potential for business excellence, excellence in your marriage, and excellence in your family life demands that you master the skill of staying U.P. (Ultra-Positive) even when–and especially when–everyone else isn’t. There is a tendency in tough times to zero in on the things that are “out of whack” and forget about all that is working in our lives and in our country.

When you’re Ultra-Positive, you’ll be more creative, productive, energetic, attractive, and most importantly, receptive to God’s will. Here are seventeen practical options to build your momentum. Pick your favorites and get started today. Then spread the joy to others.

1. Make the Decision to Stay U.P.

Nothing of consequence happens until you promise yourself that you’ll become the most positive person you know, even in light of challenging circumstances. Raise your standards! Become an inspiration to others. Everything else flows from this key decision to separate yourself from the herd mentality, from the vast majority who blame, whine, gossip, and predict the sky is falling. Life is short. Refuse to buy into this mass hypnotism…Take a stand, starting now.

2. Start U.P. then end U.P. every day.

One of the simplest ways to reduce stress and anxiety is to begin and end each day with what I call Positive Mental Nutrition™. Feed your mind with inspirational ideas, spiritual truth, or motivational nuggets for ten to fifteen minutes immediately upon awakening each morning and right before drifting to sleep each evening. During these two time periods, your mind is extremely susceptible to programming, so make sure your inputs are positive, healthy, and goal-directed. Read, visualize, affirm, pray, and rewrite your goals…and practice feeling thankful for what you do have!

3. Summarize Each Day’s Victories, Large or Small, in Writing.

This one practice alone can zap fear and generate quantum leaps in self-confidence. Start logging your accomplishments each evening in a notebook, hardbound journal, or on your computer. What a great, 4:8 habit!

4. U.P. your Physical Exercise

Another pillar of Ultra-Positive living is consistent, moderate exercise. This includes aerobic work to burn fat and improve heart health; weight work to tone and strengthen your muscles and elevate metabolism; and flexibility work to stay loose and limber. Exercise more. Exercise a lot more! Face the facts. When you’re in terrific shape and feel better about yourself, you feel better about your life and more optimistic about your future. You’re positioned to live U.P. to your full potential.

5. Break U.P. the Big Four

Negative thinking leads to negative emotions, which in turn trigger more negative thinking. The vicious cycle becomes engaged. The top four negative emotions include fear, worry, blame, and guilt. These terrorize your potential and immobilize your efforts toward becoming Ultra-Positive. When you begin experiencing results you didn’t want or expect, it’s easy to get scared and start thinking more about potential losses than potential gains. This mind-set triggers worry or what I call reverse goal setting, where you vividly imagine what you don’t want. To transfer the burden of worry, you will often blame someone or something outside of yourself. Alternatively, you may exaggerate your role in the negative events and experience guilt. Consider negative emotions to be lies from the enemy. Deal with them directly by refusing to entertain the thoughts that fuel them. This is a point very much worth reinforcing: Invest your time thinking about what you want instead of what you don’t want.

6. Forgive Someone, Including Yourself, Daily

Harboring grudges and hostility against anyone, including yourself, tends to attract more circumstances to be upset about. Practice forgiving somebody every day for real or imagined transgressions. The better you become at forgiveness, the more positive you can become as a human being. If you skip this one, I’ll even forgive you.

7. Quarantine Negativity if You Can’t Dissolve It

Carve out a particular time and place to worry (worry time) and to complain (issue time) each week. This is extremely effective because then the rest of your week isn’t diluted with the minority of negative circumstances that can infect otherwise healthy days. When you cut the spontaneity out of negativity, you severely weaken it.

8. Focus on God. He’s U.P.

Remind yourself of everything you know to be true about God. God is all-powerful. God is love. God is sovereign. God is always with us. God is absolute truth. God never changes. And so on. Thinking about God is good, really good! And the bigger you make God, the smaller your problems become.

9. Schedule Four-Minute Positive Injections Every Two Hours

Think of these as Positive Pit Stops. Review your goals or mission. Practice affirmation or visualization. Pray. Read the Bible. Relive a positive memory. Write a thank-you card or send an e-mail of appreciation to someone important. Ask 4:8 Questions. (See page 33 in that smiley face book)

10. Simplify and Declutter to stay U.P.

Complexity is negative. Simplicity is positive. Room by room, drawer by drawer, try tossing one tiny item of clutter every day for thirty consecutive days. My 1% clients love this one and so will you, because doing even a small task will help you to feel more positive. Break your jumbo-sized goals into sub-goals and milestones, and then splinter them into even smaller pieces if necessary to spur you into action. Renegotiate or downsize existing commitments to lighten your load a bit for the next thirty days.

11. Get to Bed Sixty Minutes Earlier for Ten Straight Days

Fatigue, especially chronic fatigue, invites negativity and cowardly thinking. During periods of intense or prolonged stress, extra sleep will help your brain remain an ally in the war against mediocrity. Cut something out of the evening schedule (maybe the bad news) and drift to sleep with visions of victories dancing in your head. Your body, mind, and spirit will thank you.

12. Take a Twenty-Four-Hour Mental Fast

Become Ultra-Positive one day at a time. You can rid your attitude of toxic thoughts through the practice of mental fasting. Read and reread The 4:8 Principle if you want to master this simple, relevant, powerful and biblically-based mental technique. During your fast, abstain from all complaining, fear-mongering, criticizing, excuse-making, gossiping, and worrying whatsoever! Start with a twenty-four minute fast and gradually discipline your mind to repel all negativity for a whole day. Focus on progress. Rinse and repeat as necessary.

13. Stay U.P. and Watch Your Favorite Funny Movies

Laughter is fabulously positive. Research indicates that people who laugh more actually have more fun. Isn’t that surprising? Consider building your own comedy library on DVD. Save funny movies on TIVO. Watch often. You’ll stay healthier, more creative, and less stressed–and that’s a great alternative to the medicine cabinet.

14. Have a Counter-Attack Plan U.P. and Ready

Become hypersensitive to your thought life. Since you can be negative only when you’re thinking “8:4 thoughts,” you can quickly become positive by thinking “4:8 thoughts.” This is called the Principle of Substitution. The split-second you notice any negative thought running through your mind, replace it emphatically with something like, “I am responsible” or “I trust God” “God is with me” “This is temporary” or “I can do it.” Repeat, repeat, repeat! Be ready with your comeback before the heat of the moment. Make negative, limiting thoughts unwelcome in your mind.

15. Re-Engage an Old Hobby to Stay U.P.

Involve yourself in a positive activity that used to be important to you but may have gotten squeezed out of your life due to other priorities. This will be both therapeutic and rejuvenating. Consider it a gift to yourself.

16. Intentionally Cultivate Ultra-Positive Company

This one is mandatory. It’s next to impossible to become or stay U.P. when the people you live and work with are petty, “8:4 thinkers.” Nothing equals the influence of your habitual associations. Especially now, be purposeful about which people are close to you on a regular basis. The people you hang out with influence your outlook on life. As you become more optimistic, you will attract more optimistic people in your life, and that’s good.

17. Help Someone Else U.P.

Donate your money. Donate your time. Volunteer. Simply serve someone less fortunate (and there are a billion or so to choose from) or contribute your talents and gifts to a worthy organization. Helping those who need help reduces self-centeredness and puts your own challenges into a much more positive perspective.

The key to staying U.P. is to remember that every situation can indeed be positive when you view it through the lens of Philippians 4:8, as an opportunity for spiritual growth, character refinement and the redistribution of joy.

Question Mark Icon 150x150 Do You EXPECT the Best? Its all in Your Thoughts!Which of these 17 Ways to Stay U.P. (Ultra-Positive) will you put into practice today? Do you have other ways that you stay U.P.?
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Apr 16

It had been a long winter. Although it seemed like  a dozen requests to come and visit, it really only took three calls to get her to make the two hour drive to see her  daughter and  family. When the day arrived to go make the visit it was cold and rainy. Still, a promise was a promise,so she went.

When she finally walked into their  house and hugged and greeted the grandchildren, she said, “Forget the daffodils! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch!” Her daughter smiled calmly and said, “We drive in this all the time, Mother.”

“Well, you won’t get me back on the road until it clears, and then I’m heading for home!” she assured her. “I was hoping you’d take me
over to the garage to pick up my car.” “How far will we have to drive?” “Just a few blocks,” She agreed. “I’ll drive. I’m used to this.” After several minutes, she asked, “Where are we going? This isn’t the way to the garage!”

“We’re going to my garage the long way,”her daughter smiled, “by way of the daffodils.” ” smiling sternly she said, “please turn around.” “It’s all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience.” After about twenty minutes, they turned onto a small gravel road revealing  a small church.

On the far side of the church, there was a hand-lettered sign that read, “Daffodil Garden.” Getting out of the car and taking each  child’s hand, she  followed Amy down the path. Then,turning a corner of the path, they looked up and gasped.

Before them lay the most glorious sight. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it down over the mountain peak and slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns-great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron, and butter yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers. “But who has done this?” she wondered. “It’s just one woman,”
“She lives on the property. That’s her home.” A well kept  frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory. Walking up to the house. a poster was visible once they got to the patio.


“Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking” was the headline.

The first answer was a simple one. “50,000 bulbs,” it read.
The second answer was “One at a time, by one-woman Two hands, two feet, and very little brain.”
The third answer was, “Began in 1958.”
There it was, The Daffodil Principle.

 Make a Difference  One Day at a Time

For me, that story was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than fifty years before, had begun-one bulb at a time-to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top. Still, just planting one bulb at a time, year after year, had changed the world. This unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of ineffable (indescribable) magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.

The principle of her daffodil garden;  is one of the greatest principles of celebration. That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time–often just one baby-step at a time–and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can truly change the world!

I could regret what I might  have accomplished if I had thought bigger thoughts and aspired to reach even larger goals thirty-five years ago. Imagine if I  had worked away at it ‘one bulb at a time’ through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve?
Instead of thinking of the lost hours of yesterdays; why not start today? My hope is that you only ask, “How can I put this to use today?”
(This story is somewhat of a legend that I heard many years ago. It still inspires me as much today as the first time that I heard it.)

So, stop waiting until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you lose ten pounds
Until you gain ten pounds
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until you retire
Until summer
Until spring
Until winter
Until fall
There is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
So work like you don’t need money, love like you’ve never been hurt, and, dance like no one’s watching.
When your work comes from the heart, it always leaves a legacy!

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Apr 13

Are you excited each day when you get up?  Are you expecting great things to happen? As women, we are being pulled from all different directions and expected to do it all.  I see this trend increasing every day.  I am frequently asked how I balanced it all.

When I look back five years ago to the first time that I was National Queen of Personal Sales, I have to remind myself sometimes that I had the same 24 hours each day that I do now.  I have to remind myself that attitude is EVERYTHING. That year when I attempted to do something far beyond anything that I had ever done before, it was necessary for me to know where my power and strength came from. Each and every day that year I listened to this song. It gave me what I needed.

I had goal posters everywhere, and signs with positive affirmations.  I found this one yesterday, prompting me to write this post. Not only is it necessary to be specific about what you are reaching for, the steps necessary to achieve it, but which way to look for direction- UP!

The 7 Ups
Author: Unknown

  1. Wake Up!!
  2. Decide to have a good day.
    “This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalms 118:24

  3. Dress Up!!
  4. The best way to dress up is to put on a smile.
    A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
    “The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” I Samuel 16:7

  5. Shut Up!!
  6. Say nice things and learn to listen.
    God gave us two ears and one mouth, so He must have meant for us to do twice as much listening as talking.
    “He who guards his lips guards his soul.” Proverbs 13:3

  7. Stand Up!!
  8. … for what you believe in.
    Stand for something or you will fall for anything.
    “Let us not be weary in doing good; for at the proper time, we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good…” Galatians 6:9-10

  9. Look Up!!
  10. … to the Lord.
    “I can do everything through Christ who strengthens me”. Philippians 4:13

  11. Reach Up!!
  12. … for something higher.
    “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path.” Proverbs 3:5-6

  13. Lift Up!!
  14. … your Prayers.
    “Do not worry about anything; instead PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING.” Philippians 4:6

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Apr 3

No matter where you are in life or business right now, regardless of  your circumstances, there is no such thing as failure. You see, most people have been programmed to be afraid of failure. But I believe that failure, more than anything else, is an attitude.

I’m participating in a study right now based on the book If You Want to Walk on Water, You’ve Got to Get Out of the Boat Its Only Failure if YOU Believe That it is! This caused me to think about how we define failure and our reaction to it. All of us can remember times when we didn’t get the results we wanted – we failed a test, tried out for a team and didn’t make it, applied for a job that we didn’t get or put together a business plan that didn’t work, or got involved in a romance that turned sour.

But successful people don’t think in terms of failure. They think in terms of results they can learn from. I believe that there is no such thing as failure, just lessons.  If you try something and it doesn’t work out, consider it  a learning experience, and  take new actions to get new results.

Think about it. What is the one asset, the one benefit you have today that you didn’t have in the past? Experience, right? And experience is what you make of it. Do you keep making the same mistakes again and again, or do you stop and reflect? If you don’t learn the lesson the first time, it is my experience that you will keep getting a similar “lesson” until you get it right.

Maybe you are afraid of failure, but how do you feel about personal growth?  Fear of failure can stop you before you start. It can stop you from taking the risks you need to take in order to grow. If you redefine failure as learning, as important feedback, there is no longer anything to fear.

Edison tried thousands of different materials before he found the right filament for the electric light bulb. When asked why he didn’t quit, he said, “Why should I? I now know 2,000 things that don’t work!” Jonas Salk had the same attitude. If you look at your experiences the they did, you are much more likely to achieve success.

Be honest, we all have fears, don’t we? Is it a stumbling block or a stepping stone for you? Why not feel the fear and do it anyway? You will be glad that you did!

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Jul 10

I haven’t posted in longer than I should have, so I felt the need to get some encouragement out today to my readers. Many of you are feeling discouraged or going through all kinds of difficulties. Did you know that there is something that you can do RIGHT NOW that will instantly change things? Just smile!

When I first started my direct sales businesss, I had a mirror in front of the telephone. I discovered that my results were much better when I had a smile on my face, even though they could not see it! I have since discovered with doing Skype and other webcam communications how much better it turns out when you just smile! It helps to instantly make a connection with others, builds trust and a good start to any relationship!

If you are using social media at all, take a look at your profile photo. Are you smiling? If not, find a photo where you are smiling, and crop it if necessary. Taking the extra time to do that will go far in building your friends and followers relationships even across the miles!

I have been a bit distracted with having my home on the market and trying to continue to run my business. Although I appreciate the fact that I can do my business no matter where I live, I am getting anxious to find a new home and get back to focusing on other things. Thanks for continuing to subscribe to my blog. I appreciate you and hope to inspire you to do great things!

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May 8

Keep your dreams alive! YOU can make a difference in many other lives! This is so tender, it reminds me of my grandchildren. Sometimes it takes becoming childlike to believe in yourself again. Hope that you enjoy this. If you can’t view this click here.

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Apr 26


Some of my readers may have noticed that I haven’t posted as often as I usually do. That is because I just returned from the biggest trip in my lifetime to Australia! My son is a travel agent who has been living there for almost ten years now. He has tried to convince me to come visit for years, but to be honest the biggest thing that was stopping me was my FEARS. It only took my grandson Axel about ten weeks to get me on a series of planes and travel over 21,000 miles to visit them.

You see, I don’t particularly like flying. I never have. Yet that has not stopped me from flying anywhere that I wanted to go. I have been to Europe several times, all over the U.S., including Hawaii, and even accumulated enough frequent flyer miles to pay for the domestic part of this trip for my husband Alex and I.  It’s not the fear of a crash that worries me, it’s turbulence. I hate it! I also hate roller coasters and anything else that gives me butterflies in my stomach. So every other trip I had my doctor prescribe valium for me to take on the flights.

This time, my doctor was away on holiday, so I realized a few days before the trip that I had to fly “solo”. (that is, without medications) I was so busy getting ready for the trip that I did not think about it much. I was so excited about the trip that I really did fine on the two flights to California.  Then I had about six hours to think about that very long 13 and a half hour flight that came next.

What I didn’t realize at the time is that my son booked me on the inaugural flight from LAX to Brisbane on a new airline V Australia. There was alot of fanfare, a ribbon cutting ceremony, and even tons of champagne!

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From Drop Box

So there were so many reasons to enjoy this flight, including the fact that it was a brand new jet! For the first time in my life, I actually slept on a flight! This was a huge breakthrough for me. We arrived at dawn in Brisbane! In just moments I would get to hold my grandson for the first time!

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From Drop Box

It was an unbelievable trip. They kept us busy the entire time showing us things that I previously only dreamed of seeing! We went out on a cruise to the Great Barrier Reef, and did snorkeling. The day that we took that tour the waves were 2.5 meters high and 25 knot winds. People were getting sick all over the boat. The waves were crashing up over the top of the boat. Yet, I remained calm. I knew that what we were about to witness was worth it all.  It was probably the most beautiful underwater scenes that I have ever personally experienced!

Why am I sharing all of this? Some people think that to achieve great things you are fearless. I don’t agree. I believe that it takes the ability to want something so bad that you feel the fear and do it anyway! I kept a clear vision of WHY I was doing this in my head the entire time.  You can apply this to your business.  One of the reasons that I was initially attracted to the Company that I have had a home business with for over 2 decades is that it allowed me to put my faith and my family first.  So why would I let a fear prevent me from doing anything with my family? I hope that my story inspires you too. Remember, when the pain of remaining the same is greater than the pain of change, true change will occur.  Are you ready to make a choice to change your thinking?

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Apr 4


As women, our feelings have a tendency to get in the way of our choices that we make each day , both good and bad.  Maybe you are not feeling that good about yourself or what you have or haven’t done with your life.

Why not let someone else who believes in you give you the courage to be intentional about growth today? Every single one of us was created for a purpose. Have you discovered yours yet? When your passion and purpose are aligned you will experience joy and have the ability to transfer it to others.

May you feel the love of your Creator and model it in the relationships that you have in your life. You may not always FEEL like loving others, but make that choice to do it anyway.

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Mar 22

This video is meant to be an inspiration for you.  Take a moment today to examine where is your source of strength? Life is filled with ups and downs, but the burdens don’t have to be carried alone.  I believe that people are put in your life for a reason. If this is your first time visiting my blog, please take some time to see how I might be able to encourage you . May you be blessed today! 

“I can do everything through Him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:13)

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Mar 19

persistence How to Persevere and Fight Despair in BusinessAre you discouraged today in your direct sales business? Have you been listening to negativity around you and let it effect your attitude? Do you look for others to agree with you about how difficult times are and give validity to your reason why you CAN’T accomplish your goals?

Did you know that the difference between success and failure can be found between your two ears and the company that you keep? I am often asked how I keep going when my emotions get in the way, when I don’t “feel” like it, or when it appears that I am facing impossible odds.  I believe that challenges are put in our lives to grow us in character and faith.

Hebrews 11 says ” 1Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.” When I am faced with uncertainty in my life and in my business, I look back to all of the other times that God took me through difficult times. The direction that He took me was not always the route that I would have chosen, but the destination was always great!

Having faith, is not enough though. You must add action and focus. I have noticed that the busier I am, the less time that I have to worry. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes, either. Growing up, my father would always tell me- “Don’t just stand there, do something, even if it’s wrong!” Even moving in the wrong direction will get you closer to your goal than standing still!

What it all comes down to in the end is your natural tendency of “fight or flight”.  Do you find a way or make a way- over, under, around or through any obstacles? I can teach you everything else, but you must have persistence to make it in your direct sales business.  Having been through so many challenges in my own 23 years in business gives me the ability to encourage others. Are you focusing on your problems, or looking for solutions?

It does not matter whether you come from a great family, good neighborhood, had the best education, joined the best organizations.  What matters is the choice that you make each day. Will you get up each time that you fall? This quote sums it up quite well-

“Make every day count, make every hour count, make every minute count. And
don’t stop until you have exercised your full potential, realized your
impossible dream and fulfilled your total destiny to become the person
that you and only you are capable of being.”

Mary Kay Ash

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